Rebuilding your relationship with your child can seem daunting and overwhelming. You might have been through a family breakdown, or had challenges of your own to overcome. Whatever the situation, it’s important to know you’re not alone.
Rebuilding any kind of relationship often isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Here we’re offering some top tips to help you get started in the right way.
Listen to your child
Listening to your child is important for so many reasons. It builds trust, it shows a mutual respect, and it lets them know that you care about what they have to say. If you and your child are trying to talk through an argument or an issue that’s important to them, or you haven’t had contact in a long time, the first thing you should do is listen to how they’re feeling about things.
You can’t rebuild a relationship without considering both sides and all the people involved. This means listening. As the parent, it’s up to you to set a good example and actively listen to your child.
All relationships take work. And that work takes time and effort. When you’re rebuilding a relationship with your child, it might not happen straight away. Remember, your child will be processing emotions differently to you, and may need more time to accept things and move on. That doesn’t mean you won’t ever get there. It may just take longer than you’re expecting.
It’s important to be patient with your child. Try not to force them to move more quickly than they’re ready for. They need to feel in control. Being patient will show your child that you respect them and that you have their best interests at heart. Ultimately, it shows that you’re putting them first.
We’re all human. Sometimes, you can’t manage things on your own, and that’s okay. If you’re struggling, it’s important to seek help where possible - professional or otherwise. It can be a great way to work through your personal issues, which will then help you to navigate rebuilding your relationship with your child.
A contact centre is a great place to access support. Contact can be difficult, especially if you’re estranged from your child. It’s important to have that contact in a friendly, comfortable place that puts the children first. A good contact centre will provide that. It will also give the both of you a neutral ground to talk through your issues and start to rebuild a connection.
Focus on the positives
Staying optimistic can do wonders for your relationship in the long run. Persevering and focusing on the good will help you get through the not-so-good days.
Remember, rebuilding your relationship with your child is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s normal to have setbacks, but try not to let them hold you back further. Focus on the positives - you’re getting contact, you’re making the effort, and you’re getting support from people that care. Hopefully, this will help to keep you going and continue to rebuild that bond.
At Starting Point, the children are our top priority. It’s our job to create an environment where families can reconnect meaningfully, without fear of judgement.
To find out more about how we can help, get in touch with us today.