Great questions to ask when getting to know your children

Kids are curious. They’re always asking questions. But in order to build a solid relationship with them, they shouldn’t be the only ones doing the asking. Asking your child the right kind of questions can be a really great way to learn more about them, and get to know them on a deeper level.

This week, we’ve come up with a few questions that are great for connecting with, and learning more about, your child. Light, fun and uncomplex - when it comes to getting to know kids, a little goes a long way.

What’s your favourite storybook character?

This might seem like a small and insignificant question, but it will actually tell you alot. Not just about what stories they like and their favourite toy, book, or movie, but also in terms of their values and what personality traits they like.

If they like wild, daring characters for example, that could tell you they’re aspiring to be adventurous and outgoing. If they like smart, quieter characters, they might be more thoughtful and interested in learning.

Gauging what kinds of characters they’re interested in and why they like them can tell you a lot about your children and how they like to communicate with others. And it’s that all-important communication which will be the starting point for making contact engaging and fun.

What made you laugh or smile this week?

This question is a great indicator of what makes a child happy. It’s also a really good way to focus on the positives. After all, talking about things that make you happy is a great way to brighten the mood, particularly in new or daunting situations.

What do you look forward to when you wake up?

Another question that helps you focus on the positive, and that also gives you an insight into what motivates them, where they’re at emotionally and how they’re thinking and feeling.

It’s a question that can even get your children into good habits, including being proactive throughout the day. If they hadn’t thought about it before, they might start to think about it now. What do I want to do today? How do I feel about that? Not only are you getting an insight into what your children are thinking and feeling, but you’re also giving them the opportunity to explore it themselves.

If we were drawing your best clothes/outfits, what would they look like?

This is a great way for kids to express their creativity. Not to mention get a feel for what their style is! You could also encourage them to draw or paint the pictures. This adds some more fun (and colour!) to your time with them, and can really help to open up more discussion about what they like and how they see the world.

If you were a superhero what would you be and what would your superpowers be?

We’ve all been asked this question at some point in our lives. Who doesn’t want to be invisible sometimes? Again, it gives you good insight into their thoughts and what they find important. It also tells you about what your children need, for example do they need to feel strong? Intelligent? Fast? It also tells you a little bit about the kinds of things they’re starting to value, for example courage, compassion, knowledge.

Of course, all of these questions are age dependent, and every child will have their way of communicating and bonding. But asking your child questions is good at any age. It shows them that you’re interested and engaged in what’s going on in their lives.

At Starting Point, we want to help families develop better relationships. That’s why when you have contact here, you’re in a safe, friendly space where everyone can feel comfortable. Get in touch with us today to find out more about how we can help.